It is now constructive for us to examine a close companion to body language when establishing a respectful environment, tone of voice. If we have attempted to carry our self like a robot, emulating the proper respectful behaviors, then we will find great difficulty in hiding our true feelings in our tone of voice. Suppressing body language is mastered by many. Think of great poker players. Tone, however, is a completely different creature. If we succeed in concealing our ego or disrespect by suppressing our body language, then we will most certainly fail to cover it up in our tone of voice. How can we hide all of this? The slightest sarcasm. A pitch toward scorn. An octave of disbelief.
What causes us to degrade others in our tone? Why can we control our body, but fail with our voice? What situations are we the most vulnerable to showing our true colors? Our tone will make known our inconsiderate opinion as if we have exclaimed it from the highest mountain to the world. Can you think of a time when someone in your life used body language and tone that were not corresponding? What did this reveal about that person? Perhaps we have all been hurt at times by those with ill-advised good intentions. "Why not just say what's on your mind all along," we might be left contemplating.
It has been quoted that Confucius said, "Don't complain about the snow on your neighbor's roof when your own doorstep is unclean." When we seek to create an environment of mutual respect and mutual benefit then we have some things to consider. Know this that we cannot hide our true thoughts indefinitely. How about if we take a different approach and learn to truly respect our acquaintances? Who of us would like to first step up and accept blame or criticism upon our own actions? Is there one of us who is perfect, free of error or sin? When we can accept that we are all unique and imperfect then we obtain the skill to create an atmosphere of genuine mutual respect and mutual benefit.
Copyright © Robert Clinton Chedester 2012