Ready to cast off our predispositions that may have been implanted in us by external factors we move forward. When establishing an environment around us we know that our behavior significantly influences the results. In particular our body language is a point of concern. While reaching a stage of complete humbleness is not easy this stage still does not offer complete freedom to control our self subconsciously. We must spend time as we are now considering how we affect our environment. It is quite easy for our body language to present ego, pride, disbelief, spite, doubt, distrust, and the list goes on and on. Let us instead control our own self and present a friendly environment where an open mind resides.
Think for a moment about an individual who made you feel complete comfort during conversation. What did they do? What did they not do? How did they behave? This is the suggested manner by which we discover how to present an open mind. By observing our interactions with those that make us the most at ease we find real life experiences that can serve as models. Here are a few suggestions on where to start. Sit with an upright, relaxed posture leaning slightly toward the other. This displays our interest in the conversation. Relax all facial muscles paying particular attention to your brow, cheeks, and eyes. Beware of slight squinting of the eyes, which can project unwanted signals. Remember that we are presenting an open mind not an inquisitive one. Openness is presented when we offer a meek, tempered self. We are literally opening our self and our mind to the possibility of change. Lastly, take positive control of your hands. Avoid fidgeting. Instead ensure that your hands face with palms up while keeping your arms open to at least the shoulder.
With positive control over these three key factors we can utilize them to show respect. To show agreement with our companion during conversation thereby implying understanding and empathy we use our posture, facial expressions, and hands. Take a challenge today. When watching our favorite television show place the volume on mute. Watch closely how the actors express feelings with body language. They are quite good at it. When we are really brave and up for a challenge we can have someone film a discussion that we are having with an acquaintance. Remember that we can say a lot without opening our mouth. Our body language accounts for a large portion of how we communicate. It is important to present an open mind so that we may get the most out of our interactions with others. When we are open then others open up to us in return.
Copyright © Robert Clinton Chedester 2012